A big theme with my client check-ins this week has been conflict. Specifically conflict between my client’s goals and the expectations of those around them. ▪️ Coworkers bringing in bakery goods and the pressure to not offend them ▪️ Drinks being offered at family gatherings and my clients not wanting the calories but feeling like they can’t turn it down ▪️ Family members making comments about the perceived lack of progress of my client, not realizing the *hard* mental work she’s put in around breaking down food rules...at the same time as getting a negative pregnancy test yet again ▪️ The snickers about “fad diets” as she pulls out her carefully prepared dish at the potluck dinner ▪️ And so on....I’m sure we all can think of a few and probably have all been on the receiving end. There’s not much we can do to prevent these things, especially at family gatherings. People can be cruel sometimes, even if it’s unintentionally. We can explain and educate, but unless they’ve been there, it’s hard for them to change. I definitely encourage ways to advocate for yourself when possible, or prevent the frustrations from happening in the first place. I often ask clients to counter these harsh experiences with self-love affirmations and journaling. Sometimes we even have to take a good hard look at who we are hanging around with and maybe re-evaluate that. But today, friends, my message isn’t for those who are on the receiving end of these experiences. It’s those of you giving it out. If you feel tempted to comment on someone’s food choices, body size, or weight loss process.... 🚫just stop🚫 I understand that sometimes you really are concerned. From one person who loves your loved one to another: That needs to be a one-on-one conversation presented in a very different manner. Don’t point out weight (or even weight loss) in public. Don’t comment on food choices. Don’t comment on appearance. Not in public. Not at the gathering. If someone says “no thank you” to an item you’re offering....say OK, and STOP OFFERING IT. There’s more happening under the surface than you likely realize. Remember that next time.