When S was born, I didn't really have much confidence in what I was doing so I bought and read numerous parenting books. I studied child development and psychology; I read about attachment theory and gentle parenting. In the end, i mostly ended up just doing what felt was right. 💜 I really wish this book has been published when S was a baby because it's probably the best parenting book I've ever read. I've almost finished it, and have yet to come across a single parenting hack or tip for "making your child behave." It's actually more about looking at your own behaviour and how you relate to your child - and the idea that if there's a problem, it is co-created by both of you and not an issue solely with the younger party. 💜 The first chapter in particular I found quite confronting as it asks you to look at the times you are triggered by your child's behaviour, and to look at your own upbringing and how your parents reacted when you behaved in that same way. I'm finding that when my reaction to something S does is disproportionate to whatever she has done, I'm becoming more aware of this, and asking myself: Why does this bother you so much? 💜It's a process of self inquiry rather than a process of training my child, which feels much more in alignment with my values than (for example) training my child like a dog, which is apparently a show scheduled to be broadcast on Channel 4 this week. 💜 Also: I took way more photos than I posted this week - which I do every week, but even more than usual this week. So here are photos of S enjoying herself, first with chocolate brownie and second with De Af whose company we have enjoyed lately.